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Category Archives: Positivity + Perspective

Because joy begins with how we see the world.
This is where honest reflections meet gentle humor and gratitude — stories of life, growth, faith, and finding good even in the messy moments. Here’s to choosing light, one day at a time.

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July

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July 1, 2025

With star-spangled happiness, we welcome the month of JULY–and all the energized enjoyment its arrival delivers. The heat is on, togetherness with friends + … Read More

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June

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June 1, 2025

Well, hello sunshine. The arrival of June is as comforting as Dad’s bear hug, right? The month of June speeds up our internal engines, … Read More

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May

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May 1, 2025

I don’t know about you, but I’m ready for more sunshine. So I need to look more closely at the beauty right before me. … Read More

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April 18, 2025
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April issue

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April 1, 2025

April showers are here… and thankfully so is increasing sunshine. Whew! SPRING IS FINALLY HERE TO STAY FOR A WHILE! Yes, blooms are more … Read More

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March 28, 2025
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March issue

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March 12, 2025

Well hello to the promise of March… when sunshine prevails, temp swings are big–and we don’t even mind because we know SPRING IS FINALLY … Read More

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March 8, 2025
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February 3, 2025
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February issue

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February 3, 2025

Well hello February chill and bring on the best of winter cozies…. yes, hearty soups, fluffy socks, crackling fires, and the snuggliest blankets. It’s … Read More

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December 4, 2024
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December issue

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December 2, 2024

Fast and furious as Santa’s sleigh on Christmas Eve, the holidays are upon us. And we all have SO MUCH to do. So much … Read More

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November 29, 2024
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November 12, 2024
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November issue

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November 1, 2024

Along with the cooler winds of November come the cozy feel-goods of gratefulness. And it’s even better with your fave hot java in-hand. Yes, … Read More

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October issue

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October 2, 2024

Ah, yes. Fall fun is in full effect… fall colors, fall foods, and fall festivities… yes, please! So, join us! October offers a season … Read More

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September issue

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September 10, 2024

September brings us opportunity. While August is a combo of final summer vacation days followed by back-to-school busyness, and October starts a lengthy (and, … Read More

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August 3, 2024
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August issue

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August 1, 2024

Be present in life. Appreciate the beauty that surrounds.

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July 27, 2024

Keep believing in yourself. And Keep. on. going. You’ve got this. Learn, then leave the past behind you💙

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July issue

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July 1, 2024

In July, let’s share kindness + love, while also focusing forward on our goals. And hang with us at InSuesShoes.com. Any day. Any time. You’re welcome with us.

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June issue

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June 1, 2024

Welcome to InSuesShoes.com! I’m thrilled you visited this new, exciting site—and I’m ECSTATIC beyond m’brains that this has come to fruition. It’s been a … Read More

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May issue

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May 1, 2024

Fluffy Steel + Dainty Shoes Say what? Fluffy steel? Read on, friends… May’s made for dainty shoes.  Temperatures will soon soar with consistency. Sunshine … Read More

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April issue

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April 1, 2024

We will endure… join us this April. No matter the shoes you’re in, you’re welcome here.

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April 1, 2024

The arrival of spring always bring with it a sense of added energy. An alive buzz electrifying the air. But perhaps this spring, that energy will … Read More

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March 28, 2024
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Got Butterflies?

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October 12, 2023

Good. Consider yourself lucky. You know the feeling. Senses spark. Focus narrows. Heartbeats quicken. Far from our comfort zones, stomachs begin to jump and … Read More

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This Fall, Let’s Focus on a Firm Foundation

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October 12, 2023
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Good Morning ?

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October 10, 2023

Start your morning off right! This tune is energizing, happy, + it’s how we start our workday here at InSuesShoes… so, why not share … Read More

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Oct. Issue

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October 7, 2023

Change is Beautiful. Even when it SUCKS. The bedroom was pink, just how I liked it. My canopy bed was draped in dainty, white … Read More

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September 7, 2023
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April 2, 2021

It’s been a six-month hiatus. We’re back. Refocused. And ready to rock. Join us!

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October 29, 2020

October is the FAVORITE month for many.  It’s when temps dip, leaves drop, and bonfires blaze. We prep for changing weather, we organize, and … Read More

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October 29, 2020

September sets in with a bit more consistency of schedules.  At least, it once did.  Perhaps it’s yet another detonation toward 2020’s path of … Read More

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August 26, 2020

August means heat, sunshine, good times, and transition.  It’s a month half-comprised of vacation, summer sun ‘n relaxation—and half-comprised of a return to routines.  … Read More

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August 18, 2020
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God BLESS the U.S.A.

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July 3, 2020
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June 10, 2020

It’s tough to remain focused + positive today. But here’s how you can keep pushing forward….

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InSuesShoes.com Positivity + Perspective, Wellness + Balance
May 9, 2020

This May, let’s all be relentless. Let’s take control of our own journeys, our own goals. Let’s propel ourselves forward. Doing so, we’ll learn that the hard road was really the easy choice.

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March 18, 2020
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March 13, 2020
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March 11, 2020

Got goals? Of course you do. Let’s reach ’em in March. Deal? Deal. Yes, the fun, superstitious reputation surrounding the month of March focuses … Read More

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February 20, 2020

Show genuine kindness to others always. Care for others’ needs. But above all, care for your own first. Keep taking steps toward your goals, … Read More

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February 16, 2020
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February 15, 2020

Aren’t Saturday mornings the BEST? We feel (likely) a little more rested than usual. Maybe we start the day with a run or quick … Read More

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February 11, 2020

Ah, love. ‘Tis in the air. If we’re lucky, that is. Or, is it really luck? Me’thinks not, actually. Love exists within us all. … Read More

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January 20, 2020

COMIN’ AT YOU IN JANUARY Yes, yes we are. So here’s to new recipes, beauty info, books to read, plants to nurture, and cool … Read More

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January 20, 2020

Snooze buttons are sooo tempting. Warm beds are sooo cozy ‘n comfy. And a lack of morning sunshine (for much of the USA) makes even the driven … Read More

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Let ’em judge… and shine anyway

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October 23, 2019

Isn’t this the truth? I found this quote online a number of years ago, and have shared it with audiences now and then.  It … Read More

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October 10, 2019

So, it’s World Mental Health Day.  What is more powerful to our present and future than mental health?  It’s unique to every human being … Read More

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October 10, 2019

Don’t be shy. Join us! It’s free. It’s fun. And you belong with us. Like, any time you want to join in the fun. … Read More

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July issue

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July 1, 2019

No time epitomizes the small thrills in life quite like in the month of July. Air is warm. Fireflies illuminate dark skies. Children giggle … Read More

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Finding Joy

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May 1, 2019

I saw what joy looks like.

And not the liquid kind that squirts from a bottle.

I believe our greatest purpose is to achieve and experience joy. The real deal. The emotion intended to fuel our spirits and propel us through life. The antidote that heals hurts and eradicates negativity.

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7 Ways to Recharge this Spring

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April 23, 2019

Recharge. Focus on mental health. Hey, it’s a beautiful thing. Beauty is not just about skincare, fashion or the right makeup trends. It’s projected … Read More

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It’s Possible to Work Yourself Stupid

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April 5, 2019

When urgencies and deadlines rule your world, all else in life can float by without notice. I’ve been there. For YEARS I was there. An earthquake in Nepal? No kidding! My kid’s doctor bill is overdue? Oopsie. And, how old is my dog anyway??? I ask simply because I really don’t know. I’ve been too busy, buried within work trenches for the last decade to lift my gaze and see life passing me by.

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April issue

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April 1, 2019

Splash a little. As April’s reputation promises, rain and showers are, indeed, prevalent throughout most of the country. So many puddles. And so many … Read More

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Monkey Cards

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March 3, 2019

Warning… When ‘I’m fine!!’ befalls thine beating eardrums, here’s its translation:  You’ve just agitated—although not yet entirely removed—a grenade’s detonation pin. Set it down. … Read More

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March issue

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March 1, 2019

A sea of kids gathered with their bicycles, ready for the challenge. We peered over the edge.  I, of course, was the only girl. … Read More

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Coupon Kindness

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February 14, 2019

I’m so NOT FINE.
Situation: Grocery shopping in a new city.
Summary: I’d rather have a root canal.

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A Valentine’s Day to LOVE

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February 12, 2019

It’d be easy to let holidays slip by unnoticed. But where’s the fun in that?

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February issue

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February 1, 2019

Since the days as a pigtailed pipsqueak, I was a walking contradiction. Sassy, yet sweetly insecure. A sparkly girly-girl but sprinkled with a tad … Read More

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Slugs Are Nice

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January 7, 2019

Snowflakes gently fell to the ground. Tree branches held piles of winter’s sparkly fluff. Brilliant white blanketed the grass. And yellow holes splotched what … Read More

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January issue

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January 1, 2019

Determined, fearless—and fueled with youthful naiveté, my pigtails dove in. To anything fun, messy or daring.

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Anger is a Funny Thing

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October 24, 2018

Anger is a funny thing. It quietly lingers and grows within. It preys upon the conscience. It weighs heavily on our emotional state, at … Read More

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Words hurt. Actions sting. For a moment…

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August 22, 2018

My tiny tennies stood motionless in the grass as I faced a mass of boys exiting my house. There he was. Laughing amongst my … Read More

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Want A Happy Life? You have what it takes

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July 18, 2018

We hold the key to inner joy + happiness. It’s within the mind…

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Happy Streaks

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June 1, 2018

Ever had one of those days? You know, when you SHOULD’VE looked in the mirror? For yours truly, that day was today. There was … Read More

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Dishonesty

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May 8, 2017

Let’s face it. There are dishonest people in our worlds.
And dishonest people suck.
Common traits include manipulative behaviors, they’re poised as forever-victims—and when layers are peeled away, intentions are virtually always self-indulgent.
With these folks, what you see is not what you get.
Yuck.
It can be a difficult journey having these characters in your life’s periphery—and worse if within your circle. Whether a family member, co-worker or neighbor too close for comfort, it’s far too easy to expend unnecessary energy, focusing on their antics instead of staying steadfast with our own growth and positivity.

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Money: Living Rich

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March 15, 2017

Money and the mind are inextricably entwined.

What moves so many people? Money.

Why do most people work? Money.

What allows for freedom? Money.

What provides anything you’d want? Money.

Or so people think. But there’s just so much emptiness in this outlook.

Sure, if we all had more than enough money, perhaps we would have fewer worries. We’d not lack for material items. Perhaps we’d even quit our jobs.

But that’s not likely what would happen.

Consider tweaking your perception of money—then consequently, the perception of the bigger picture (that is your life). Doing so may just improve your world exponentially.

Money moves people. Indeed, it does. Physically, anyways. It can move us to accept a position, to get out of bed each morning, to produce for others so we may receive a paycheck, right? We’re moved to action, but that is not motivation. Motivation holds deeper purpose. Motivation is fueled by desire, by passion. Be motivated, not simply moved.

People work for money. Of course! We work to pay our bills. But then what? Paying bills is a completion of a necessary task. Yes, that’s good. But instead of the mindset to work for money, work for purpose. We offer most of life’s waking hours toward a job. Wouldn’t life be so much richer if we worked for purpose (and paid the bills)?

Money allows for freedom, we think. Perhaps. But then what? Move to an isolated island to exist Jimmy Buffet-style with margaritas and sunshine? Sure, sign me up. For a while. Then reality would set. For most of us this will never happen, but even if so, it’d be a temporary relief—but not a sustainable solution. Therefore, it’s not freedom. Fulfillment is a necessity. Freedom and fulfillment? They’re like peaches and cream; they just go together.

So how do we get there?

Give your perceptions an honest review. Seek out passion in your work. Create opportunities to explore more areas of interest—at work and outside of work. Make time to expand your world. Doing so, you’ll give back and grow at exponential rates—where it matters most. Within you.

Happiness truly is NOT linked to an abundance of money. Happiness is derived from what’s on your daily to-do lists. And it’s those you allow into your world.

Yes, bills exist. Mortgages must be paid. Bank accounts should grow. But in the big picture of life? It’s your personal well-being and individual growth that brings fulfillment—and a wealthy, healthy life.

That, friends, is living rich.

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Difficult People

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March 14, 2017

They’re just darn difficult. You know the type. He complains incessantly, then asks for direction or advice. You provide. He does the opposite of your suggestion—then comes back for more advice. It’s great to be a caring ear and voice of logic—but when the cycle is a repeated ritual of time invested, wisdom shared and then ignored, it’s tremendously deflating. Right?

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Life Balance? Get real.

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January 11, 2017

There’s just so damn much to do, isn’t there? How is it even possible to stay energized? To maintain motivation? To keep on keepin’ … Read More

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The Truth about Happy: It grows and glues

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November 18, 2016

Happiness. As holidays jingle into life, a time intended for joy often morphs into flashbacks of disappointment and hurt for many. What a shame … Read More

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Welcome to InSuesShoes.com!

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April 19, 2016

I’m so happy you stopped by!
So, what the heck is InSuesShoes?
It’s a vision that took nearly three years to bring to fruition… and I couldn’t be happier to be right here, right now to share it with YOU.
So, here we are, ready to rock. Ready to provide for YOU a place of dependable positivity, smiles, encouragement—and dare we say FUN.

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Stop Worrying Already:
Anticipation Anxiety

InSuesShoes.com Positivity + Perspective, Wellness + Balance
April 1, 2016

Do you or someone you know, become anxious when you don’t know what’s coming next?
This is referred to as anticipation anxiety. It’s caused when you don’t know what’s coming next and assume it’s more likely to be painful. Why do this to yourself?

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March 3, 2019


Warning…

When ‘I’m fine!!’ befalls thine beating eardrums, here’s its translation:  You’ve just agitated—although not yet entirely removed—a grenade’s detonation pin.

Set it down. Walk away.

Not that it’s all your fault.

But, it probably is.


Hubby and I quietly pride ourselves in rarely having disagreements. Fighting is not our style; it’s just not a typical practice for our personalities. Overall, we’re a really great match. Arguments? We’ve had four in the last 8+ years.

Not bad.

But four recently increased to five. And, friends, Numero Cinco was a dandy.

Yep, he yanked out that pin and said grenade (that’s me) erupted, as all small-but-mighty explosives will do.

Then, as timing would have it, I had to buy him a birthday card.

Shhwhhaat?

Have you EVER BOUGHT A CARD when you were MAD at your partner? With every sweet-nothing I read in each stupid card, the burning, lingering shrapnel of said earlier explosion glowed more intensely—as if my husband invisibly stood beside me, gently blowing his hot air to stoke my flames.

With each card message of: “You’re the best lover-cuddly-perfect-hunk-of-my-dreams” garbage I read, irritation bulged my eyeballs and I think a rhino horn began to form on my forehead. I know, so unattractive.

But it was still his birthday. He was still my husband. And I do love him.

But I did NOT like him as I stood with my rhino horn before a sea of cards—from which well-groomed, hornless wives with girlish grins selected perfect prose for their princes. Pllbbbbbbb.

Since I did not see any husband birthday cards insisting he extend ole’ wifey an apology, nor did I find any ‘congratulations for making me feel like crap’ greetings (these shockingly just don’t exist), I had to change strategies.

So I picked up a monkey card. And I learned something new:  It’s impossible to look at a funny monkey card and think about poisoning your husband’s omelet.

I belly-laughed like a fool at that monkey—and my anger began to dissipate. Weird. I guess my husband was really okay for a boy. And definitely WAY sexier than a toothy monkey in sunglasses.

But, the card was too silly for the seriousness of during- and post-fight circumstances. So, I continued my search. Then, as if moving spotlights from a thousand car dealerships were guiding my search, I found ‘the one.’ Its words obliterated all intentions to rearrange contents in his dresser so he could never again find anything.

Yes, I bought the perfect, lovey card. And I apologized to my husband for my part of the argument. Why? Because I love my husband.

Yet, what remained was the elusive reciprocal apology, the delicacy of which cannot be taken lightly. Here’s why: my innate garrison of grenades is only further complemented by what’s been widely labeled as “Su(e)perhuman Stubbornness.”

And this genetic resistance has only ever been outmatched by one other human on this planet. It’s the guy walking around with unpoisoned eggs in his belly.

I knew he’d make me wait for the apology. And he did.

But then, guess what? Bingo! He said sorry, too. (I love that part of the story.)

We worked it through. We took turns talking and listening. We had a gin and tonic, my rhino horn almost completely disappeared, and all was right again.

Hey, every relationship worth a bean takes work. And sometimes it’s the bumps, detonations and erroneous forehead growths that best guide us all to real, loving fulfillment.

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